They say diamonds are forever and I suppose they technically are. Just as I suppose they can be lost forever. $18,000 down the drain for a tangible symbol of ever lasting love. Bullsh*t. Pardon my french, but the hype behind putting a hefty deposit for a house towards an engagement ring frustrates me. I’m not frustrated because I’m in that predicament, but just because I hear it all the time. Why such a heavy price tag? Does it have some profound meaning? Or is it another sacred thing that society has commercialized? You are entitled to your own opinion of course, but here’s what I think.
It’s ridiculous, that’s what I think. What is the engagement ring really about these days? Is it to show how much a man loves you or is it to show how much money he has? Does a man get certain privileges if he spends $18k on a ring versus $8k? Does it give him a pass to be a terrible husband? I don’t know the business of too many married people, so my next comment is purely from what I’ve seen in movies and the lives of celebrities. Usually the women with these high-end engagement rings get treated poorly or aren’t appreciated. Some even get beat and afterward rub that expensive ring because that’s all they have. Again I know movies are fictitious, however, even some fiction is based on reality.
Sure there are some who can afford to buy $18k engagement based on that “3 months worth of salary” rule. That’s fine and dandy, but who the hell came up with that? Why isn’t it 4 months or just 2 months? Some people really live by that. Why? It’s not a rule, it’s guideline. If it isn’t a state or federal law, nor did Jesus instruct me to do so then it’s nonsense.
When I was younger I never really looked down at a woman’s fingers to see if she was married since a girl in my age group being married wasn’t likely at the time. Now that I’m older sometimes I do take a peek and say “Oh, she is married.” That being said when it comes time for me to buy my future fiancée an engagement ring, I’m going to buy her something nice and bright so any fool that looks for it will be blinded. Seriously, when the time comes I will buy something nice that I can afford and that she will be more than happy with. I’m not in the business of satisfying society. I’m in the business of satisfying the woman who is of importance.
Once upon a time I dated a girl who told me that her engagement ring could be no less than $15,000. The words that came out my mouth were, “Oh, I see.” The words that went through my head were, “Good thing I don’t plan on marrying you.” Bottom line, if you truly love someone you shouldn’t demand a ring that is $xx,xxx. You should be happy that he loves you enough to buy you a ring, period. Unless I’m just stupid-rich at the time, I hope if my fiancée-to-be is presented with an $18k engagement ring she says, “Thanks, but you better return this ring baby, we got bills to pay!” That’s real in-your-face love if you ask me.
– Vic Louis
p.s. No, this post was not provoked by any current situation or significant person in my life. It’s just my 28 cents on the matter.