Unless you are someone who has been with your one first love since high school, you most likely have at least one ex, or two, or thirty-six if you get down like that. That being said, I’m sure there was a point where one of the following sentences were asked or stated: “Can we still be friends?” or “I still want to be friends.” Even if it wasn’t directly spoken, the question was probably in the air, unless of course you broke up with your former sweetie pie because he or she stole your credit cards, insulted your mother, slept with your sister, and poisoned your pet turtle. There’s no coming back from poisoning a pet turtle. Anyway, should you be good friends, real friends, with your ex? Or if you think you are friends, are you really? I suppose it depends on your definition of friend. You see, like love the word friend is often used loosely.
If you’re going by one of the many dictionary meanings, then sure a friend is someone you are on good terms with. I’m on good terms with a lot of people, but that’s not saying much. That only means that I don’t have an urge to get my Mortal Kombat on when I see them. If you go by a deeper definition then a friend is someone you trust, care for, hang out with once in a while if not all the time, and keep in touch with. Even if they live out-of-state or you don’t speak to a particular friend often, you know that you’re in their thoughts as they are in yours. To make a long story short, you don’t have to question whether or not they always have your best interest at heart. On the other hand, someone you text or receive a text from once every 3 months only to say things like, “Hi, how are you?” or “Happy Birthday” or “I hope a baby grand piano falls on you,” is that really a friend? That sounds more like an advanced acquaintance. With all this in mind now, do you still call that a friendship? That’s the “are you really?”