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We Can Still Be Friends

Unless you are someone who has been with your one first love since high school, you most likely have at least one ex, or two, or thirty-six if you get down like that. That being said, I’m sure there was a point where one of the following sentences were asked or stated:   “Can we still be friends?”  or  “I still want to be friends.” Even if it wasn’t directly spoken, the question was probably in the air, unless of course you broke up with your former sweetie pie because he or she stole your credit cards, insulted your mother,  slept with your sister, and poisoned your pet turtle. There’s no coming back from poisoning a pet turtle. Anyway, should you be good friends, real friends, with your ex? Or if you think you are friends, are you really? I suppose it depends on your definition of friend. You see, like love the word friend is often used loosely.

If you’re going by one of the many dictionary meanings, then sure a friend is someone you are on good terms with. I’m on good terms with a lot of people, but that’s not saying much. That only means that I don’t have an urge to get my Mortal Kombat on when I see them. If you go by a deeper definition then a friend is someone you trust, care for, hang out with once in a while if not all the time, and keep in touch with. Even if they live out-of-state or you don’t speak to a particular friend often, you know that you’re in their thoughts as they are in yours. To make a long story short, you don’t have to question whether or not they always have your best interest at heart. On the other hand, someone you text or receive a text from once every 3 months only to say things like, “Hi, how are you?” or “Happy Birthday” or “I hope a baby grand piano falls on you,” is that really a friend? That sounds more like an advanced acquaintance. With all this in mind now, do you still call that a friendship? That’s the “are you really?”
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2 Weeks Later

I was flipping through a magazine the other day and I came across a very small section that discussed commitment. Don’t worry this magazine has more articles than pictures in case you were wondering.

When asking a man if he’s ready to commit and he said no, 65% of 443 women said they would back off for now. 21% would press for explanations and 14% would ditch the guy. For the women that actually stuck around, 41% expect to discuss commitment again in 1 to 2 weeks. 21% want to talk about it in 24 hours and I don’t have the rest of the percentage on hand. I immediately had a head on collision with a few thoughts after looking at those numbers.
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It’s Over

I was bored the other night so I used my wheel of fortune technique to pick a dvd to watch. I spun my head, rolled my eyes and when life came back into focus I landed on Breakin All the Rules. I didn’t like what I was dealt so I cheated and did a second spin. However, landing on that movie reminded me of one of the rules of breaking up. The rule is not to break up with someone at your own place. I then thought of how I once broke this rule despite the fact I knew not to and afterward my mind was pulled in different directions.

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