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Where’s the Nearest Pawn Shop?

Gold Plated Jewelry

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When I was in high school I shared my locker with one my closest friends. One morning he was waiting for me outside first period class and look terrified. Before I could ask what his issue was, he began to rant about how our locker had been compromised and some stalkerish shit was going on. He was behaving like a character in a teenage horror flick. He told me he opened it up and found dead flowers, old notes, and jewelry in there.  I got to my locker and he wasn’t lying. Inside was everything I had given to my then ex-girlfriend of 2 days. She broke up with me over the weekend due to unconsolidated issues of her own and decided to return everything. The dead flowers were a bit creepy, but fortunately the hallways were laced with trash cans. I collected the jewelry and stared at it wondering what the hell was I going to do with it. Then I had a light-bulb moment, well more like a flashing-sign moment, and the sign read “Jewelry Exchange.” As soon as school let out, my friend and I headed downtown and traded the items in. We walked out with our new bling feeling pretty jiggy I must say. That was a long time ago though, but still I wonder how people handle similar situations.
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We Can Still Be Friends

Unless you are someone who has been with your one first love since high school, you most likely have at least one ex, or two, or thirty-six if you get down like that. That being said, I’m sure there was a point where one of the following sentences were asked or stated:   “Can we still be friends?”  or  “I still want to be friends.” Even if it wasn’t directly spoken, the question was probably in the air, unless of course you broke up with your former sweetie pie because he or she stole your credit cards, insulted your mother,  slept with your sister, and poisoned your pet turtle. There’s no coming back from poisoning a pet turtle. Anyway, should you be good friends, real friends, with your ex? Or if you think you are friends, are you really? I suppose it depends on your definition of friend. You see, like love the word friend is often used loosely.

If you’re going by one of the many dictionary meanings, then sure a friend is someone you are on good terms with. I’m on good terms with a lot of people, but that’s not saying much. That only means that I don’t have an urge to get my Mortal Kombat on when I see them. If you go by a deeper definition then a friend is someone you trust, care for, hang out with once in a while if not all the time, and keep in touch with. Even if they live out-of-state or you don’t speak to a particular friend often, you know that you’re in their thoughts as they are in yours. To make a long story short, you don’t have to question whether or not they always have your best interest at heart. On the other hand, someone you text or receive a text from once every 3 months only to say things like, “Hi, how are you?” or “Happy Birthday” or “I hope a baby grand piano falls on you,” is that really a friend? That sounds more like an advanced acquaintance. With all this in mind now, do you still call that a friendship? That’s the “are you really?”
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2 Weeks Later

I was flipping through a magazine the other day and I came across a very small section that discussed commitment. Don’t worry this magazine has more articles than pictures in case you were wondering.

When asking a man if he’s ready to commit and he said no, 65% of 443 women said they would back off for now. 21% would press for explanations and 14% would ditch the guy. For the women that actually stuck around, 41% expect to discuss commitment again in 1 to 2 weeks. 21% want to talk about it in 24 hours and I don’t have the rest of the percentage on hand. I immediately had a head on collision with a few thoughts after looking at those numbers.
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